To continue with a pattern …

Another poem from Cyranny caught my attention and hence drew a response. I repeat that response here, hopefully without the need for further explanation.

*****

Tell me lies

And hypnotise me

As we catch our breath

Let’s hold the mood

When we were rude

And shared our little death

Let’s pretend

It will not end

That we will not be seen

That we will stay

And hide away

To be what we have been

We’ll fib. We’ll fake

A wall we’ll make

Around our precious sin

A web we’ll weave

Of make believe

To hide our secrets in

This time from Stella who has some troubles sleeping sometimes and whose thoughts (I am sure she won’t mind me telling you) drift occasionally into the erotic.

Crisp linen sheets and candlelight
Together we will lay
Together we will dream of night
But also dream of day
Another sunset we will share
The blanket of our skin
Together still at sunrise
When again we will we begin
I live a dream. I’m hypnotised
I start each day anew
I have no need of opiates
My only drug is you

 

 

 

I have very few thoughts of my own. What little inspiration comes to me comes from the words of others and, most frequently, from you people. And believe me – you are ALL inspiring, for one reason or another. I can rarely summon more than snide comments upon other people’s posts and that is normally where they remain. Now and again I repost some of these comments not to draw attention to myself but rather to draw attention to thier origins.

In this instance I wish to draw your attention to Cyranny

Most of you, of course, are well aware of her talents already.

My response takes on a more melencholy tone than does hers as well as the nautical theme. And a few mixed metaphors, perhaps. Such is my mood.

****

Lend me your arm

Let me share in your calm

Will you shelter me during the night?

Lend me your hand

And please understand

That what’s wrong, may one day be right

Touch me again

In the wind and the rain

As the waves wash over our past

Let me mould with your form

As we weather the storm

As together we cling to the mast

What was over can start

If you lend me your heart

When again we catch sight of the land

When our ship comes to shore

You will love me once more

And together we’ll sleep on the sand

On a rather more serious note ….

I have received a lot of correspondence of late encouraging me to look out for the welfare of others. I am not always good at doing this.

So RUOK?

I know that this day is mostly about mental health and I that is something that I take very seriously …… but what I have to say is not, strictly speaking, about mental health.

But RUOK? means RUOK?

And an article that I read this morning struck a chord and seemed worth repeating (in part).

I do have a lot of friends (don’t act all shocked please) and a lot of them are female and some of them find themselves in and out of relationships that are not always healthy.

The writer of this article points out the real dangers of these relationships without sugar coating them.

She has one key tip……..

If your new boyfriend is super-attentive and tells you about his previous “psycho” girlfriend, that’s a warning to get out as soon as possible. It’s a sign he doesn’t take responsibility for his actions when difficulties arise in a relationship.

She also lists a potential sequence of events …

1. The perpetrator had a history of stalking or abuse in previous relationships. That holds true except for those in the dataset in first-time relationships.
2. The relationship develops very quickly. He is looking for commitment and that really means, in his eyes, forever. God forbid you should want forever to end.
3. He starts to exert controlling behaviours. Where are you? What are you doing? Who did you speak to today? Who are those text messages from?
4. An event or discussion challenges his control. The woman may decide she wants to end the relationship or he experiences personal difficulties such as losing his job, causing an abrupt change in his circumstances.
5. Escalation – he tries to reassert control by increasing the intensity or frequency of contact, stalking, or threatening suicide. It’s about getting “his woman” back and diminishing any challenge to his status.
6. By now, the relationship is dangerous. If the woman is lucky, he leaves and she will then be his most recent “psycho” girlfriend. Or he might attempt to exact revenge. In the worst case, he starts considering murder as an option.
7. Planning homicide – buying weapons, making opportunities to get the victim on her own.
8. Homicide – which may not be limited to the woman but also her children.